Verbose

What's more valuable: feelings or intentions? I feel as if this debate is the one perpetually going on in my mind. As a sensitive person, I'm so often insulted or hurt and people try to reconcile that by reminding me of intent. The problem is that I'm logical, romantic, loyal, stubborn, and narcissistic. I can see the logic of both sides: when someone doesn't mean to hurt you, it should objectively be less offensive. However, that does not negate the feeling produced. I'm romantic and thus I try to see the good in everyone ("She didn't intend on it sounding that way"). I'm loyal—once you gain access to my inner circle, despite my high expectations, I really don't want to push you out. This hesitance to change leads pretty wonderfully into my stubbornness. And my narcissism means that I tend to want to value my feelings more than others' intentions.

The solution is always to compromise. I just wish that this all was easier for me to express, preferably in less than 1 paragraph.